I’m drafting this post on the plane bound to Taipei at exactly one month after our wedding. Husband is sleeping soundly beside me while I decided to reflect on life as Mrs Fong so far.
As my sister said on her maid of honor speech, which made me lose some of my honor, my husband and I already had a ‘trial period.’ The three of us lived together in our condo. It started with a sleepover then sleepovers became a full blown living together arrangement with a plus one. I can say that it gave us an advantage because we’re able to get to know each other on vulnerable -tired from work, having anxiety, after a fight- and daily setting -the toothpaste test and different definitions of cleanliness. We were able to talk about and accept each other’s mood, pace and quirks. I’m not saying that there won’t be any surprises in the future, i’m sure that will keep the spark in our relationship because you want to be comfortable but not too complacent.
When people ask me ‘how’s married life so far?’, my answer is that the biggest change so far is that my sister moved out. We felt like we sent off our first born to college. We’re enjoying our life together, just the two of us and we’re creating new routines. I’m very excited to come home to my husband who runs to the door every single time I open it, unless he’s in a virtual meeting. I love our no phone allowed dinners where we get to talk about our day and plans. I love waking up beside him and praying together to thank God for blessing us with another day.
Yesterday was Holy Thursday and my husband suggested that we do Stations of the Cross on our wedding and engagement church. We’re both not accustomed to going somewhere on Holy Week so we’re kind of scared to do the one thing that our parents often say ‘don’t go anywhere on Holy Week/Good Friday except our house/church.’
Fortunately we returned safely from our vacation.
I’m sure our marriage will have a lot of fun and shaky times but I’m always grateful to God for blessing me with my husband who will forever be my friend, number one fan, chef and tag team partner.