Recently, I attended a "stress management" talk which is part of our people engagement team's "wellness campaign'. One of my key takeaways, aside from I shouldn't drink more than 15oz of wine per day, is using the prayer of serenity to assess myself and eventually counter stress.
It is crucial to identify what is causing the stress and after that check what can I do to avoid it.If it cant be changed, evaluate what can be done. One of the examples mentioned during the talk is that "traffic" is most common cause of stress for employees. So, can you change the Manila traffic? NO! Then, what can be done? Is it a) Move to a place near the office, b) allot a longer commute time or c) find a job closer to your house. The action will ultimately depend on your priorities.
In my case, I've been feeling stuck for a while now because I've identified what's making me unhappy and I've worked out 4 different action plans to get out of it. Unfortunately, I've faced 4 rejections as my plan A,B,C & D all came tumbling down. After the 3rd "NO", I was feeling hopeful because I thought "it only comes in 3's" so I'm claiming the 4th as the one for me. But still, it was a big "NO". At some point, I thought that I cannot deal with the 4th consecutive rejection. The thing is, life goes on and I have no choice but to stand up again and keep moving.
Sometimes, I wonder if I am being ungrateful but I want to be the kind of person who works hard to get what I think I deserve. Now, if only, I can get better at being at peace when things don't go how I want it to be.
Not long ago, I felt that I was on a crossroad with a guy friend. I knew that a step can lead us to be more than friends but the thing is he's the one that I exactly don't want. I know its unfair because I'm already second guessing even before anything starts to unfold. I don't want him!!! (repeat 100x). Then why am I writing about it if it doesn't matter!
OK, back to the more important crisis, it's hard to be indecisive. It is in itself a decision and can be costly along the way. I need to visit St Jude or take a vacation.